Whew! It’s the end of January, and you’ve done your homework, gotten over yourself, and set some incredibly inspiring goals that you are super excited to work on, and then WHAM. That niggly little voice in the back of your head starts taking over and telling you how its impossible to succeed, or the kids get sick, or clients start to ask where their pictures are, and then there’s the appointments, the call backs, the ordering products, never mind even eating a decent meal (where have all the veggies gone?!) and doing that mountain of laundry on the floor you’ve been walking over all week.
The routine takes over. And like anything, when you are starting a new habit, its really, really hard (and overwhelming) to know where to begin. You may be clear on WHY you are doing what you are doing, but all of those overwhelming details of life can sometimes suck us down and stop you from achieving your goals. The devil is after all, in the details.
I get it. It’s my reality too. As an entrepreneur and a mom, it’s so easy to get swept up in the routine,not only with all that “has” to get done, but, if we are honest with ourselves, it’s also where our comfort zone is. It’s often where we get validation from. Our people “need” us. And those big scary goals? Well, they aren’t in that zone at all.
The hard truth? If you want to move past where you are now, and accomplish your goals, you are going to have to start to pull back, look at your life differently, and then do things differently. There is an old saying, I am sure you’ve heard before about the definition of insanity….no? It’s doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
There I said it. Its honest. It may not be what you wanted to hear, but there is no magic fairy dust. Just you. And just you doing the work. There are some tips though that can help you.
You may have even thought of them yourself, you’ve given this so much thought. Just in case though, here are some ones I have found to be most helpful…
Reaching goals require commitment and dedication. There’s no other way around it. I love the saying “Goals don’t work unless you do”. It’s true. When you have a goal, write it down. Committing to it even at that level starts the process, and what gets recorded has a higher degree of getting done. And then post those goals somewhere you can see them. It’s your line of sight. When you make decisions or take actions, look at that goal and ask yourself “will this bring me further away or closer to this goal?” And then be honest. The only person you’re cheating is yourself here.
2. Chunk it Out
I think it’s awesome to have incredibly huge, OH MY GOD I CAN’T POSSIBLY DO THIS goals. I call mine WIGS (Wildly Impossible Goals) and I set a few each year. Sometimes they seem impossible, but if you pull back and look at your goal as a journey, there are usually smaller goals you set, like baby steps, which get you there and move you to the direction of your big goals.
3. Enlist Supporters
Whether you have someone who holds you accountable, or people who have skills that will help you reach your goals, or even, god forbid, people you can simply delegate things to, take a moment and think of all the incredibly wonderful people you know. Here’s a little secret, people love helping at their core. They are usually thrilled you asked THEM out of everyone you know. So, who can you draw on from your supporters to make your goals come true? Everyone needs cheerleaders – who are yours?
4. Course Correct and Check In
Nothing in life goes to plan. You know that. In fact you may experience it every time you try to leave your house with the kids. Someone always has to go pee just as you get the car packed. So it goes with your goals. Just because things don’t go exactly as planned, doesn’t mean you’re doomed to failure, it simply means life happens. It’s what you do with those moments that matter, so dust yourself off, check–in and course correct!
5. Let It Go
Seriously, I could write an entire article, or maybe even a novel about this incredibly scary word – its called DELEGATION. You have a goal. You are doing new and different things. Ask yourself what can you let go of? It’s about focusing on what will bring you closer to what you want, and unless you have found a way to warp time, you only have 24 hours in a day, so, what are you prepared to give up or delegate? I gave up dinners and laundry and you know what? I have three boys who help out now and are learning how to cook. And despite the protests, no one died when they had to do their laundry either. I use this time to accomplish my goals and we are all better for it.
Life is all about change. You are not going to be the same person as you were when you started this process, and that’s not only ok, that’s pretty damn exciting. So, be prepared when you have your check ins, to ask yourself if your goals still matter, or do they need a little tuning up? Make them matter and don’t be afraid to let them change and grow, just like you will.
7. Its Hard to Live a Positive Life with a Negative Mind.
Like attracts like and you always have a choice in how you handle things when crappy things happen, or even if they don’t happen. Mindset is key to getting to those big scary goals. Even when you might feel like taking all your toys out of the sandbox, step back and think what you can take from this and how you can reframe it. A positive mind allows for possibilities to be seen. A negative one ignores the silver platter right in front of you.
8. Celebrate Your Success
This is my favourite one, and it’s so often what we forget to do. When you hit a milestone, never mind your HUGE goal, look back. You will discover how far you’ve come. And it’s a long way. So crack open that champagne, take a bubble bath or go for a walk and celebrate!!!! You did it!!
Pause just for a moment and think of the goals you have set in the past that you have been successful in achieving. How did you reach them before? What did you do? Success breeds more success and you’ve done this before. Seriously you have. Whether its riding a bike, driving a car, or registering your business….all those are skills you learned. You did it before. You can do it again.
You’ve got this…..
I would love to hear what your favourite ones are!!!